I was at the gym the other day around 11 AM and an older gentleman was working out next to me. He looked over at me and said, “Shouldn’t you be working right now? I didn’t get to come to the gym in the middle of the day until I was retired.”
Just like some people think their religion and political views are “correct” and everyone else must be wrong., some folks seem to think their view of what work and life should be (or can be) is the right one…and everyone else is a dumb-dumb.
The big lesson here, I believe, is what works for you works for you. What works for me works for me. And what works for that guy works for that guy.
You might be the person similar to Marie Forleo who rethought her business model to spend more time near her hubby (as opposed to on the road all the time).
You might be the person who wants the freedom to cut down working hours to spend more time with her kids like Ria Sharon.
You might be the person who wants to create passive income to spend more time doing fun things such salsa dancing and kickboxing like Tim Ferriss.
You might be the person who wants to travel to the world’s poshest places such as Capri, Italy & Mykonos, Greece and compete in epic fitness competitions like Rob & Kim Murgatroyd.
You might have a sense of adventure and charity and spend your free time going on zero gravity adventures and spreading entrepreneurship to less fortunate communities like Yanik Silver.
Or maybe you aspire to be “pretired” like Shannon Ward and Diana Stirling who have spent 13 months living in tropical destinations over the past three years WITH kids.
You might thrive on a structured schedule for every hour of the day. Or that idea might give you a heart attack. You might love to work from home (like me). Or you might need to be an office. You might need a million hobbies outside of work…or maybe just two.
But at the end of the day, it is up to you. There are examples across the board of pretty much everything (my favorites are those that are REALLY living life who have created an incredible, exciting, fulfilled lifestyle). There is no “right” or “wrong” way to live your life and create your business similar to religion and politics.
I know what works for me right now.
- I love doing The Rise To The Top.
- I love working from home on a flexible schedule.
- I love taking time before, middle or after the day to get a workout in or have tea and sushi with a friend if I want to.
- I love having the freedom to do fun things like go to hockey games and WWE events.
- I love spending as much time with my wife as possible.
- I love playing rec sports such as flag football and ball hockey, BBQing, traveling and spending lots of time with my family.
- I love the freedom and control I have over my business…I can take some time off and I have a team in place to make sure everything goes smoothly and I don’t feel guilty for taking time away.
- I love the simplicity of just needing a laptop/phone/iPad and the Internet and I’m all set when it comes to business.
- I get giddy over trying something new and exciting or incredible experiences like the recent trip Marcie and I took to Costa Rica where we hung out with monkeys, took a sunset kayak cruise and zip-lined.
- I love how I know one day when we have kids that not only will I not be the Dad who is “never there” but I will be the Dad who always IS there (just like my dad was/is to me).
But that’s me. And that is right now.
-You might not know what works for you, until you try it. Give it the “ole college try” as they say. For example, I didn’t know if I preferred to work from home/coffee shops, etc., until I spent time trying to work out of an office.
-Don’t be embarrassed. Just because someone else doesn’t agree with what you are doing or thinks it is weird (ahem…guy in the gym), doesn’t mean you’re wrong.
-Find someone (or multiple people) similar to you to learn from. As mentioned above, someone is out there that you will resonate with be it on a business level, personal level or lifestyle level. Learn from them. Get to know them. Pay attention. If anything, it will give you confidence about the way you want to live your life and run your business. Sometimes we don’t know what we don’t know. Keep an eye for upcoming The Rise To The Top episodes in 2012 with people who have mastered their personal lifestyle design who will open up your eyes. Trust me.
Because, at the end of the day, do any of us really want to be that guy in the gym who deferred the life he wanted and looks down upon folks who are living it now?
QUESTION: What would you put on your “I love” list similar to mine above. Try it. “I love…”